Questioner: Somebody said that when a baby is born, it does not come with an instruction manual. If, hypothetically, one had to write a manual of how a human being should be, from birth to death, what would such a thing be?提问者：有人说，孩子出生的时候，并没有带着人生指南来。假设一定要写一本关于人从生到死的指导手册，它会是什么样子的呢？ Sadhguru: Empty book would be great. Now you are trying to turn everything into machinery. There are other dimensions to a human being than just “operating” him in some way that you think is useful. A human being need not be useful to anybody. It is just that the bullocks which are yoked to a cart look at the wild deer romping about in the forest and think, “Oh, how they are wasting their lives, not useful to anybody. No good.” But there is joy in the deer. You are yoked, and there is no joy in you.Sadhguru（萨古鲁）：无字之书就很好。现在你正试图把一切都变成机械系统。人除了以你觉得有用的某种方式来运转以外，其实还有其它的维度。一个人不需要对任何人有用，这就像被拴在犊车上的小牛看着在森林里玩耍的野鹿，想：“哦，他们是在浪费他们的生命，对任何人都没有用，没用！”但是，野鹿们很快乐，而你则被牵着鼻子走，你不快乐！ If you become a joyless human being by just trying to be useful, then all the purposes of life are defeated. What you are doing will not mean anything. Socially, maybe they will give you an award for the miserable face that you carried and the things that you did in the world, but in life it does not mean anything.如果你只是为了让自己有用而变成一个不快乐的人，那么人生所有的意义都落空了。你正在做的事情不会有任何意义，在社会层面上，也许他们会为了你悲惨的面容和你所做的事情给你颁一个奖，但在生命层面上，它并没有意义。 Drop the Instruction Manuals丢掉人生指南
Stop looking at life through someone else’s intelligence. Learn to look at your life with more intelligence. Everyone has the necessary intelligence to look at their life sensibly if other influences are taken away. The problem is, you are too influenced by past and present heroes. In the end, your mentality is just that of a fan club. Fan club is a very rudimentary mentality.不要再用别人的眼光来看待生命。学会以更大的智慧来看待你自己的生命。若排除其它影响，每个人都有足够的智慧来理智地看待自己的生命。问题是，你受了过多过去的和现在“英雄”们的影响。最后，你的心智就像一个粉丝俱乐部。粉丝俱乐部是非常不成熟的心智。 Any normal child has come as a complete being. You can only nurture the child to his or her full potential. You cannot make something else out of them. If your ideal tree is a coconut tree, and a mango tree sprouts in your garden, what would you do? Because it does not look like a coconut tree, you will chop off all the branches and just leave one. That would be a very poor mango tree. The only thing you can do is nurture the child to its fullest intelligence, physical well-being and emotional well-being. This will happen only when you just nurture it, not tamper with it.任何一个正常孩子的降生都是一个完整的存在。你只能滋养孩子让他实现自己的全部潜能，你不能将他们塑造为其它东西。如果你理想的树是一颗椰子树，而一株芒果树在你的花园中萌芽了，你怎么办？因为它看起来不像一颗椰子树，你会砍掉所有的旁枝只留下一根主干。那将是一株非常可怜的芒果树。你唯一能做的，就是滋养这个孩子，让他在智慧、身体健康和心理健康方面都全然绽放。而这，只有当你仅仅去滋养他，而不是改造他时才会发生。 Creating a Conducive Atmosphere创造一个有益的氛围
Children have come through you, they do not come from you. Do not ever think they are yours. It is a privilege they have happened through you. Your business is just to provide them a loving and supportive atmosphere. Do not try to impose your thoughts and emotions, your philosophies, your belief systems and nonsense upon the child. He has enough of his own intelligence to find his way. If you create the necessary conducive atmosphere for his intelligence to grow fully, he will handle it the way he knows.孩子只是经由你而来，但他们并非来自于你。千万不要以为他们是你的。他们经由你而来，这是你的荣幸。你的任务仅仅是给他们提供一个充满爱和支持的环境。不要试图把你的思想、情绪、你的哲学、你的信仰或无稽之谈强加给孩子，他有足够的智慧去找到他自己的道路。如果你创造了所需的有益氛围让他的智慧得以充分地发展，他会以他所知的方式处事。 “Will everything go right?” It may go right, it may go wrong – that is not the point. But the chances of it going wrong are minimal. When the child grows up exercising his own intelligence, if he makes one mistake, he has the intelligence to correct it. As long as they are working towards their wellbeing and they are not doing something negative against their own life, you must wait. For the entire time until the child becomes twenty-one, you must feel like you are still pregnant. Just wait. When the child was inside, you did nothing, right? Just nourished yourself well and waited. Just like that – provide the atmosphere and wait. “一切都会好吗？”它可能会好，也可能不好，这不是关键。但是出问题的几率极小。当孩子在成长过程中锻炼了他自己的智慧，即使他犯错，他也有能力纠正自己。只要他们是在为了自己的幸福而努力，而不是在做与自己的生命对抗的事情。你就要等待。直到他们21岁的这整段时间里，你要觉得自己还在怀孕，只是静静等待。当孩子还在肚子里面时，你什么也没做，对吗？只是把自己滋养好，然后等待着。就像那样，营造环境，然后等待！ 原文链接： isha.sadhguru.org/global/en/wisdom/article/child-no-need-instruction-manual